My Daughters Have No Mother. (text response)

           Max Mutchnick writes this article stating why he calls his daughter’s surrogate an oven. Many of his readers were annoyed with the referral to the surrogate as an oven. He makes his argument by stating that he truly meant no disrespect and admires the generous soul who carried his daughters for thirty-seven weeks. Max is gay and could not produce a baby with his partner, so they logged onto a secured Web site where there were pages among pages of girls, not women he adds. The website contains a headshot, a small video testimonial, and extensive medical history. He states that in the article you don’t even get to meet the surrogate mother. He also includes, “Fifty percent of my babies’ DNA would be purchased online.” This quote leads me to believe that he does not like the process of choosing a mother over a broad website, as the one he chose.

He makes the relation of diamonds to a donor you really like, “It’s a BUY NOW situation.” Although he was very excited, he was also scared once the decision was made. He makes a very strong point with the quote, “We’ll never know her. Our daughters will never kiss her. She is everything….and nothing.” After reading this quote I now understand the title of this article. He wasn’t meaning anything disrespectfully towards the surrogate mothers out there but he literally meant that his daughters will have NO mother since he is gay. It makes me feel bad for him because in the article he states that it drives him crazy, that he is sincere and feels bad his daughters won’t have a mother. Once you realize how sad and sorry you feel for him because you want his daughters to have a mom too, he concludes with a list of things that they do have and it makes all the sadness go away and replace that frown with a smile.

                                                              

                                                              The List

Doting grandparents

Lots of cousins

Fifty gay uncles

Two gay aunts

Clean sheets

Bubble baths

Kisses from morning ‘til night

Walks in the park

Laughter

Dogs that lick their feet

And two adoring fathers.